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If you thought the path to sexual bliss was simple, look at this list of sexual blunders made by men when they're having sex. If any of them seem familiar, you've got some work to do on your bedroom etiquette! 1) Heading for her vulva, clitoris or breasts A woman is more likely to be irritated than sexually excited when a man goes for her breasts and vulva after a few minutes' kissing. Be aware of what she needs and touch her sexual areas only when she's sexually aroused. If you go for her breasts when you get her into bed and twiddle her nipples like you're tuning a radio station, you're not going to get a very good reception. 2) Not knowing how to kiss like a romantic Passionate kissing is an art form which eases a couple into the main event of sex and cultivates intimacy. Learn how to kiss your partner, and do it well. That wouldn't include sticking your tongue between her teeth and wiggling it around madly. 3) Being too rough when you touch her erogenous zones Men like to have a firm touch applied to their penis. But if you approach her clitoris with the same as you apply to your penis when you're treating Mr. Happy to a quick morning massage, she's likely to howl with pain - and kick you out of bed. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, so it's very delicate. Treat it accordingly. 4) Not stroking her gently A woman's largest sex organ is her mind. The next largest is her skin. If you were thinking of anything else, think again. For her, sex is all about connection. And that includes skin to skin contact. An hour spent massaging her will arouse her to her need for sex and almost certainly guarantee she has an orgasm one way or another. Make sure you focus on putting your sexual energy into your fingers while you massage her. That means not thinking distractedly about the football game while you're oiling her up. 5) Locking onto her nipples like a teething child Tempting though it may be to lavish your oral attention on her breasts, she's not going to thank you for reminding her of the last time a teething child bit into her nipple. Kiss all around her areolae and gently work towards her nipple, gently licking it with your tongue and maybe carefully sucking it between your lips when she's really excited. If she likes what you're doing, you'll know by her moans of delight. 6) Biting or blowing on her ear because you think it's sexy Very few women seem to find this exciting. Your time would be better spent searching out her erogenous zones elsewhere. 7) Leaving a kiss bite on her neck If you're an adult, this is a no-no. If you need to know why, you're obviously under age and you shouldn't be having sex. 8) Not shaving before sex Think back to the last time you gave oral sex to a woman with a few days' growth around her vulva. Now imagine that brushing back and forth on your face in the erotic throes of passionate kissing. Enough said? 9) Not washing your smelly bits before you have sex Even if you just have what the French call a tart's wash, make sure you're a smell-free zone when you enter the bedroom. (In case you need to know - the male tart's wash is washing your penis, balls, ass, and armpits.) 10) Forgetting that foreplay starts a long time before lovemaking No woman wants to be taken for granted. If you touch her lovingly all day, keep shooting her sexy, loving looks, and take the trouble to make sure she knows you're thinking of her, she'll be ready to melt into your arms by bedtime. Leaving loving little noteswhere she'll find them is also a good idea. But make sure they are romantic! 11) Penetrating her before she's ready Yes, we know you want to get into her. But hold on. Take your time, let events move at their own pace, and only gently put that finger up her vagina when she's ready. While men forget that women like penetration just as much as men (which is just as well, when you think how much men like to stick things up a woman), she'll only want penetration when she's aroused enough to enjoy it. So as you finger her clit, surreptitiously check out her cunt. If it's moist and open, she may well be receptive to a finger on her G-spot. Start gently and apply a firmer touch as you go. If you don't know what the G-spot is, go check it out on Google. 12) Going for her clitoris during cunnilingus or masturbation Most women just find this irritating - and very uncomfortable too, if the clit isn't aroused and lubricated. Work from around her labia, the lips of her vulva, towards the clitoris as she gets more aroused. Even then, a subtle touch along the shaft of her clitoris around to the side of the clitoral head may be better for her. 3) Slowing down when she wants you to keep going till she comes If she's nearing orgasm she certainly won't want you to stop whatever you're doing, whether it's with your cock, your fingers or your tongue. Bearing in mind how hard on the tongue cunnilingus can be, we suggest you make sure your fingers are ready in reserve if you get a bad case of cramp. If she's not saying much, she may be lying there silent because she's got lost in her excitement, not because you're licking ineffectively at her vulva. But then again, how would you know? She may be so excited by what you're doing that she shows it by pressing her vulva more firmly against your mouth or fingers, in which case carry on with your stimulation. If she gives off an aura that she'd rather be out shopping, you need to think of something else. Like asking her what she wants, maybe? 14) Undressing her inelegantly Listen up guys: you don't have to struggle with those zips while you kiss her. Indeed, she might well appreciate it more if you let her disrobe. Nothing about an underwear fumble is funny, when it interrupts the romance. Let her take off anything you don't know about and when you do help, make it look like you're delicately removing her garments rather than pulling at her clothes like you can't wait to fuck her - even if you that's true. 15) Looking like a clown in the bedroom Nothing is more pathetic to a woman than a man wearing his underpants and socks. Why this should be so remains a mystery, since it seems so natural to a man to undress like that. However, if you don't want her to laugh, take off your socks first. 16) Expecting her to shave for you Yes, we know you like the shaven vulvas, but if she's not into shaving, don't try and make her do it for you. There are few things more annoying than itchy stubble in the groin. If you want to see more and have easier access to her pussy, ask her to lightly trim the hair. 17) Entering her without asking her first Such a controversial idea! And yet so nice - occasionally, at least - to be romantic and ask "May I enter you?" This can be a very exciting and loving way to go if you're looking deep into her eyes. Needless to say, you'll be in the the missionary, which, by the way, remains everyone's most popular position for sex. And then again, sometimes you can just sense the moment for penetration - but always remember not to let your judgment be affected by your desire to fuck here. Yes, we know it feels very nice. But be a man - and make sure she's ready first. 18) Probing around her vulva with your penis if you can't find the way in This will turn her off at once - guaranteed. If you can't find the way in (it happens) on your own, ask her to guide your penis in. There's no shame in that, but acting like a clown can ruin sex for you both. And anyway, think how much time you'll save if she just puts it in for you. 19) Pumping away without regard for her comfort Now you're in! Hurrah! But whatcha gonna do next? Pump away heartily till you ejaculate? Bad idea.....surely you'll want to show some consideration for her pleasure? Start with slow and shallow thrusts. When you make love, she'll like it best if you act masculine and strong: be confident, know what you're doing, be thoughtful and gentle at first, and work up to harder and more vigorous thrusts if she starts moaning with pleasure (as in "oh, yes, fuck me harder!"). 20) Expecting her to present her bottom to you when you want it doggie style It's a male thing, the desire for rear entry sex. Mostly. Then again, there will be times when the mood takes her and she just wants the naughty, raunchy feeling of rear entry sex. In between, you might get it on special occasions, if you're lucky. And if you do persuade her to indulge you, don't make the mistake of slapping her rump like you're spurring her on to buck harder and faster. 21) Thrusting too hard when you have a big penis If you happen to have a big penis, restrain yourself as you thrust, or you might hear her shriek as you hit her cervix. This will not, probably, be a shriek of delight. It may, however, signal the end of your pleasure for now. 22) Rapid ejaculation is not the mark of a good lover Very few men have the endurance that allows them to really satisfy a woman who enjoys vaginal intercourse and thrusting against her G-spot. You can improve your staying-power with self help exercises, but if you just can't be bothered, at least have the consideration to keep going for at least long enough to give her some satisfaction. Do some research on Google for "end premature ejaculation". 23) Not coming at all - retarded ejaculation Delayed ejaculation is not a good thing. She won't see it as in any way attractive, either, when her cunt is bone dry, she's bored out of her mind and you still aren't going to come. So if you are one of the men who have trouble reaching orgasm, go see a sexual therapist! The quicker you get treated, the sooner she'll be able to enjoy sex with you and stop having plenty of time to think about the exact shade of paint to put on the bedroom ceiling. 24) Losing your hard-on when you put the condom on If you're one of the many men who find that Mr Happy goes to sleep when the condom makes an appearance, it's back to Google for you. Try a search on "losing erection when putting on a condom" and see if there are any tips to keep your erection. 25) Not going down on her when she wants cunnilingus I haven't yet met a man who didn't like the idea of going down on a woman, so any doubts must be about her smell or taste. If she's a bit ripe, then suggest a bath as part of foreplay. If all you're interested in is getting her to suck your cock and you won't do the same in return, reading these tips isn't going to help you much anyway. 26) Failing to ensure her pleasure if you have premature ejaculation By the way, {{{you should make sure that your woman has an orgasm before you do|women come first
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